I just got off the phone from talking to an old mate of mine, Jon Doust.
Jon and I have known each other since the early 80’s.
We ran a highly successful ‘Humour Workshop’ at UWA for several years and even presented at the World Humour Conference one year.
I had just finished reading Jon’s highly acclaimed and Award winning book ‘Boy on a Wire’.
‘What’s the book about?’ I hear you ask..
The Age newspaper puts it way better than I could so here goes..
‘From the opening sentence, it is clear that we are in the presence of a writer with a distinctive voice and uncanny ability to capture the bewilderment and burgeoning anger of a boy struggling to remain true to himself while navigating the hypocritical system he finds himself trapped in … what makes Boy on a Wire much more than a bleak coming-of-age story is Doust’s sharp wit. “Justice not only prevails at Grammar School, it is rampant.” If you know an angry teenager, give this to him.’ — The Age
Even though I had known Jon for all these years, worked side by side, having read his thoughts and feelings in the book, I realised I never ‘really’ knew him..
HOW WELL DO YOU KNOW THE PEOPLE YOU’RE CLOSEST TO?
It got me thinking to how much we really know people we live and work with?
Sure we know when they are angry, or frustrated or upset..
But do we know what is really causing that?
Steven Covey tells us to ‘walk a mile in their moccasins…’
But do we need to be amateur psychologists?
Or do we need to take just that little bit extra time to emphathise and try to understand?
Maybe I’m just thinking aloud here….
CARROTS, STAFF RETENTION AND HUMAN PERFORMANCE
If you read the book ‘The Carrot Principle’ you find that the number one reason people leave companies is because THEY DON’T FEEL VALUED…
It has little or nothing to do with pay or conditions..
People will work in cold, dark, dingy, cramped and noisy conditions if they feel the mission, the cause, the quest is worthy.. that their contribution and their minds, bodies and spirits are valued..
If you read Dr Martin Seligman’s work on Positive Psychology you’ll find that a positive workplace, a positive language, a positive expectation, a positive ‘vibe’ is the key to positive outcomes (at home, in sport, in the workplace).
Maybe I’m just rambling here, so I’ll wind up shortly..
So I rang Dousty to have a chat..and to let him know how I was feeling about reading his book.. and to wish him all the best with the next book he is writing..
We talked about old times and our families and our work and had a good laugh about this and that.. (as you would expect two people who had designed and run a Humour Workshop would do..)
As we move into Mothers Day this weekend. maybe its a good time to both get to know and appreciate our Mothers (and the Mothers of our children..) but also the people around us who we work and live with..
After all.. we are all Human Beings… with hearts, souls, spirits, pasts, futures, dreams and frustrations..
We’re all on the wire one way or the other..
A helping hand or a word of support can go a long way to someone else on the wire too..
Love to all..